Being a lone wolf is slowing your hunt for happiness

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"Be strong enough to stand alone, be yourself enough to stand apart, but be wise enough to stand together when the time comes." — Mark Amend

I'm an introvert. A hermit.

I spend an inordinate amount of time alone (if you count lots of time spent with a dog as alone).

As someone who recharges alone, independence is a highly important trait to me.

But too often we can forget that community can be even more important in our own growth and success.

Lone wolves get independence, sure.

But they don't get the power of the pack to bring down their quarry. They don't get the joy in community, nor the joy from contributing to the success of others.

You don't have to do it alone.

I mean, you can. I'm not doubting your ability by any means.

But you don't have to.

You are a wildly intelligent beauty of a woman. I have no doubt in your own capacity to discern what you want and to pursue it.

But we are all smarter together.

You are inherently whole and resourceful, so you can muster the grit and determination to do what you must to get where you want.

You can "lone wolf" it and survive.

But what about thriving?

That is what your pack is for.

Adding the assets of other inherently whole and resourceful women to your own process and brainstorming will dramatically speed up your trajectory.

I believe that you want to help the women you care about, just as I believe there are women who care deeply about you and want to see you succeed.

Those women will do anything they can to help you.

But you need to let them know how they can.

I am one of those women who wants to stand with you and help you spread your own message outward.

Because here you are, week after week, reading my words. Your involvement helps me feel heard.

How can I help you feel heard too?

I don't know what it is that you need, so if you want my help, you must tell me how.

I want to help you...and perhaps you want to help me as well.

I am in my own moment of need.

The thing is, despite my own tendency to go inward, to try to muscle through and howl on my own, I can always do with some help too.

I was laid off from my day job, and in this sort of transition, there are a multitude of emotions and personal desires to untangle.

I am devastated at the loss of a wonderful job, the stability it provided and the "work family" I had. But I am also wildly excited to be doing personal coaching full time.

I have big plans for Project Intention in the works.

New endeavors that will help this message of female empowerment and wildness spread outward.

But I'm also scared shitless.

So if you have the willingness and ability to help me too, your involvement could literally effect my livelihood.

If you feel called, please help share Project Intention.

Follow along on social media channels (links at the very bottom of this email).

Share these wholehearted notes with women you care about.

If you feel interested in intuitive coaching together, by all means, let's have a discovery call.

But just know—I don't write these notes to sell my coaching.

I pour my heart into this space with the hope that my efforts will impact a woman on an individual level, regardless of whether she ever sends a cent my way.

That maybe my words will make you want to live bigger, louder, with more of your heart at the forefront of your actions.

That you'll grant yourself the permission to change the way you think about yourself. To change a small habit that will impact your greater day-to-day.

Believe me when I say, I wholeheartedly want to help you get where you want to go.

And if it feels right, I hope you'll feel up to helping me too.

Let me howl with you.

Iris Rankin

Soulful questioner, exuberant organizer, here to find the balance between discipline and delicious relaxation. Iris Rankin is the founder of Project Intention, a values-based community focused on living day-to-day with purpose, planning, and heart. Iris encourages women to adopt the self care practices that make them feel divine, the planning tools to hone in on their essential wants and needs, and the emotional resilience to express their most authentic selves.

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