keep your promises...or don't.


"You’re going to change your mind a thousand times. That’s a good thing. Only imbeciles never change their minds." — Anna Rascouët-Paz

You're allowed to change your mind.

There's a prevalent idea that commitment to a course of action is the end-all-be-all.

That quitting is not an option.

That you are flakey if you do not say what you said you were going to do.

It's a fair thought, because keeping promises is incredibly important for staying in integrity with yourself.

But only you can know which will weigh on your heart more and which will lift you up where you need to be: following through on what you said or making a new choice based on new information.

When I make promises to other people, I do my damndest to make sure I do what I can to follow through.

It should also be the same when you make promises to yourself, and if anything you should consider the promises to yourself golden above all others.

Keeping promises to yourself is how you ensure that you're taking care of yourself in order to make your greatest contribution in the world.

But so should honoring your changing with needs when yours needs change.

Your only question should be, "What can I do now to make sure I'm serving myself in the best way possible?"

Sometimes it means staying the course.

Sometimes it means a small tweak or two.

Sometimes it means a 180 degree pivot.

You are the agent of your own experience.

Only you can know what serves you best.

Keep your promises. Or don't.

Just know that you have options for whatever direction will suit you in the current moment.

Know that if circumstances change and you decide you want to go a different route than you had planned, that doesn't make you a person without integrity.

In fact, honoring yourself from moment to moment is the highest form of integrity possible.

You ensure that you can maximize your contribution by taking care of yourself first and having the extra capacity to then take care of others.

Integrity is also being able to take responsibility for breaking a promise in the face of changed circumstances.

Just because you change your mind does not mean you break your promise lightly.

Be conscious of how you make your promises so breaking them is kept to a minimum, and be kind with yourself when you know you must make a move you didn't anticipate.

Choose accordingly, based on what the quiet voice in your mind tells you it needs.

Honor your needs.

Iris Rankin

Soulful questioner, exuberant organizer, here to find the balance between discipline and delicious relaxation. Iris Rankin is the founder of Project Intention, a values-based community focused on living day-to-day with purpose, planning, and heart. Iris encourages women to adopt the self care practices that make them feel divine, the planning tools to hone in on their essential wants and needs, and the emotional resilience to express their most authentic selves.

Want more intentional love notes delivered straight to your inbox? Sign up for fourteen days of free permission granting love notes, videos & exercises. You'll also receive weekly insights for living wholeheartedly, wildly and with intention.

Like this post? Please share it with your friends.