“People who avoid intimacy are always, and I mean always, imprisoned in a small and circular world. Intimacy is the only gateway into the temple of human or divine love.” — Richard Rohr
You care so much, so often, for others, don't you?
So why is it so hard sometimes to let someone do the same for you in return?
You are a caring human who has needs that need to be met. Period.
While it is possible to feel largely self-fulfilled by what you can accomplish on your own, being human is inextricably linked to connection.
Allow yourself to lean into that connection, because it is one of your greatest assets for helping you thrive.
The process of allowing others to care for you is deeply embedded in trust.
Trust in yourself.
Trust in others.
The people who care for you must earn that trust, just as you must earn theirs.
Likewise, you must teach yourself to be receptive.
As with anything worthwhile in this life, opening yourself to care is a practice.
I get it—surrender is one of the most difficult processes to work through, and it is a lifelong one.
It's the only way. Surrender is not a giving up, it's an opening up.
Surrender is linked with trust and requires your deepest faith in who you are and what you know to be true to move forward.
If someone wants to care for you—let them.
That's not a slight on your own abilities.
I am wildly sure that you are genuinely capable of taking care of yourself.
You can both be capable and receptive. They're not mutually exclusive concepts.
You are already strong.
But are you open?
Letting others in is true vulnerability.
And vulnerability is in fact strength.
It takes true courage for intimate exchange to occur, and to entrust some of your own wellbeing into the hands of someone else.
You deserve to be wildly adored and feel deeply satisfied.
You deserve to feel whole and loved.
If you currently do not feel as if you are, you're either not advocating for yourself or the people you're with need to step up to see your wild beauty for what it is and what it deserves.
If they are not willing, it is your job to go where you will be well cared for and theirs to let you.
You deserve to feel as if your efforts are acknowledged.
If you don't feel that they are, speak up.
And when you get the response you want and need, when your partner and your friends and your family rally to be by your side to show you just how wonderful you are, let them.
Don't spend another minute of your life not allowing yourself the care that you give to others.
Intimate reciprocation is one of the greatest gifts of human life.
Treasure it, use it, and let others in to treasure you.
Open to receive.