Relinquishing control to trust

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"Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be."—Sonia Ricotti

Surrender is often thought of as a soft process. Not so.

Letting go of control can be deeply jarring for our sense of identity.

Despite the discomfort, it is perfectly okay not to have total control.

You're not meant to.

Trying to control outcomes is a product of fear. It's not actually possible to control an outcome anyway.

We can only give ourselves the illusion of control over what will actually happen.

You have the agency to affect change, and steer your desired progress in a particular direction, but you cannot ensure that all will ever go exactly as planned.

Surrender yourself to the idea of a natural progression of your life's unfolding.

Relinquish your control over to trust.
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Surrender is entirely based in trust.

Trust that your inner experience is telling you the truth of what you need.

Trust that beginnings and endings are cyclical. When one aspect of your life ends, trust that there will always be another beginning, new life reaching upward from the ground toward you.

Listen to what feels like it needs to go.

The more you resist, the harder the process of disintegration will be. And whatever you hold onto will still disintegrate anyway.

Letting go is about making room for the next version of yourself to take become true.

Endings are a clearing out for new, better beginnings.

The more often you lean into endings instead of resist, the more accelerated the process of aligning with your best self will occur.

Surrender to the idea that some processes need time to unfold.

Often we can imagine a new part of ourselves taking form, but it sometimes takes far longer to manifest into reality.

The fact the vision in your mind's eye isn't taking solid shape right now isn't a bad thing; it's just not meant to happen yet.

Surrender is incredibly difficult because it is the process of relinquishing our attachment to outcome.

But there is incredible strength is following your path with closed eyes and sure feet.

Feel sure that this life is happening for you how it should.

Letting go of what no longer serves you so you can make way for what helps you serve your highest purpose. 

Iris Rankin

Soulful questioner, exuberant organizer, here to find the balance between discipline and delicious relaxation. Iris Rankin is the founder of Project Intention, a values-based community focused on living day-to-day with purpose, planning, and heart. Iris encourages women to adopt the self care practices that make them feel divine, the planning tools to hone in on their essential wants and needs, and the emotional resilience to express their most authentic selves.

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