"Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom." —Thomas Jefferson
What are you not admitting to yourself? To others?
We withhold truth for the sake of ease in the moment. Withholding truth seems like a good solution in the short term. We spare others the discomfort of our disagreement. We spare ourselves that discomfort too.
I have withheld the truth many times. It took me a long time to realize that withholding truth is often on par with outright dishonesty. In either case, we do the other party a disservice by not showing up truthfully for them.
We do ourselves a disservice by holding our tongues.
Passivity is based on fear. Fear of letting your true self be exposed to the world and its criticisms. This fear is natural, but it does yourself a disservice.
Maybe you fear the change that comes with being who you actually are. And yes, your life will change.
But it is up to you to courageously face your life, because it is all you ultimately have in this world.
You can be honest and also tactful at the same time.
Sometimes honesty will turn people away.
Being truthful makes us vulnerable to disagreement, even rejection.
That's why we avoid it in the first place.
But what about the times that speaking up about your truth could have been helpful to other people?
For all of those times you stayed silent, you will never know.
But you always have the chance to speak honestly about what you find helpful for yourself in the event that it might help someone else.
The more you speak up truthfully, the more opportunities you have to enhance someone else's experience—and yours.
Being truthful, laying your soul bare, is how you open yourself up to the people who connect with who you actually are.
You cannot find your pack unless you howl to them.
They cannot hear you if you say nothing.
Speak your truth. Laugh from your belly with what truly lights you up. Let that truth come out like a bark. Howl it if necessary.